As I recently told a young patient of mine, though we do not always get to choose our circumstances, we always have a choice in who we want to be. And we always have a choice to connect to one another or disconnect from one another.
But sometimes the greatest victory is letting go. So too, good deaths allow the body to peacefully shut down instead of violently attempting to pump life back into a lifeless body.
One patient was 54. The other was 97. Guess who was the no code, the do no intubate (DNI), the do not resuscitate (DNR), the one awaiting death?