We live in a world that is driven on gift economy, which is the idea that valuables are given with an implicit agreement for future reward for the giver. This idea often pervades our personal relationships from parent-child to romantic to friends. We often give in the expectation of receiving. That is not how God designed relationships.
What if, instead of being jealous of all the babies, wedding, engagements, relationships, etc. surrounding me, I saw them as signs of hope?
"It feels good to achieve closure. Sometimes, though we become unwilling to sacrifice that sensation even when it's clear we're making a mistake" - Charles Duhigg
Thanks, Bachelorette, of all the things possible for re-teaching me that how I act as a single person is important for my marriage.
It's not for the gaping wound of pride but for the small cuts and scrapes of pride that I need to have regular check-ups with the Divine Physician.
Unfortunately, most of the pressure to measure my success by my romantic relationships comes from within Christian circles. We have unwittingly adopted a theology of prosperity when truly our collective Christian creeds teach a theology of accompaniment.
I've believed the lie that I need to wait for the perfect situation to follow Jesus.